Being an entrepreneur is hard. I know this sounds a tad self indulgent based on my social media and instagram but it can be. Over the last few weeks myself and some of my peers (also very public personalities based in food, film, digital and lifestyle) have been in a work and life FUNK. The conversation has spanned from financial woes to inauthentic people competing for gigs to lack of inspo to feeling depressed and THE MOST TALKED ABOUT – FEELING LOST.
Let me say first and foremost, I am very fortunate in all the opportunities, people and support that surround me and living a truly unique life.
BUT in #truth social media is 1/20th of real life. I’ve been honest about a checkered past of tumultuous relationships, former careers, anxiety + need for perfection (read: unattainable self set standards) AND life being SH*T at times and IN KEEPING WITH THAT HONESTY now … 2018 wasn’t as shiny and AHHH-MAZING as I had hoped for.
I’m a truly happy person (irritatingly so to some LOL) but being in this mood left me sullen, irritable and more GRINCH than “Joie de VIVRE”.
NOT fun for me, work or others.
Work wise though this day in age is very different. I’m not a millennial but grew up with technology enough for it to it be a major player in my professional + personal life. I have a voice and viewership based on my credentials, education + work history, NOT just because of influential numbers or audience. WITH all of this, I’d be lying to YOU (and myself) if I haven’t thought about buying likes, changing it up to sound like everyone else, throwing in the towel because of comparisons or not thinking I’ve achieved enough.
WHAT to do.
Literally sitting here after another conversation with a dear lady friend and closest male pal. LADY pal is feeling defeated and uninspired like me, essential an “I don’t know and don’t care ATM feels” and MAN pal said a few kind words that came at the right time and is essentially the reason I am writing this now (after months of off air).
HERE are my LIST of TOOLS that may help YOU when feeling flat, uninspired, jelly or just BLAH:
(*AS always IN MY OPINION only)
- TALK to your people. This could be your “hard hitting friend” – you know the one that never bullshits and GIVES you the hard truth. A$$ kicker, if you will. ORRRRR it could be your most inspiring friend that gives you insight, hope or even a potential collab!
TWO: FEEL the FEELS. If therapy has taught me anything, YOU cannot move forward carrying or hiding the past. TAKE the sick day, have a pity party, CRY or eat 12 cupcakes while watching a rom-com. DO it and refuse to feel guilty about it.
THREE: STOP comparing. Everyone has a talent or a voice that is unique to them. FIND YOURS. It’s there, I promise you. Today a friend told me his goal on his upcoming holiday was to find out himself and his next purpose. Maybe take an overnight away and just brainstorm until something hits or inspires! Can’t get away – turn your home into a “staycation” – island tunes, tacos and let your hair down!
FOUR: 30 second dance party. EXACTLY what it sounds like. Dancing is mood booster!
FIVE: Open a book. Go to a museum. JOURNAL. Eat at a new restaurant. Buy a fashion mag. Watch a docu. There’s more than one medium to find inspo. YOU just have to try. MY fav: Libraries. I love the feel of books and you can read anything or escape to anywhere in seconds
SEVEN: Drink more water. I just added this because I’m constantly on people to drink more water.
EIGHT: MOVE. Walk. HIKE. RUN your worries away. GRAB girls and head to the nearest spin class. MOOD enhancer and endorphins will always give you a lift. FREE therapy.
NINE: EAT happy foods. Cold water fish, colourful fruits + vegetables and WATER.
10. THIS will pass. I fell into this funk due to work being terrible, the weather being terrible, feeling lost, being behind on other work and let myself fall into it. I’m now “putting my ducks in a row” to help make 2018 great again and by default (and a bit of sun and Vitamin D supplements) has removed a great part of the blahs. OR as Audrey would say THE MEAN REDS.
What is your version of coping?
FRIENDS? THERAPY? QUIET? Let us know by email or comment. Truly hope this helps anyone feeling something identical or similar.
ALSO to my people who tolerated and got me through my hump esp DJH, BT, MJ, TH, JB, JM, KE, KC and GH.
As always xoxo